that doesn't get the comment "I want them to have their own identity" when referring to not dressing twins identically. No matter how they are dressed their identity comes from within. Not having their own identity lies within the individuals whom address them or by those who label them as "the twins" and don't know each of them as an individual.
No matter how I dress my girls, they will be referred to as "the twins" by some people. Some people will know them enough to tell them apart and treat them as individuals and other people won't. In my family, they are referred to by their given names, I rarely hear anyone call them "the twins". My Dad sometimes calls them "the twinies", but he also knows them individually and he can see their different personalities even at their young age now (17months old).
I dress my girls the same, day and night. So far it hasn't given them "one identity". No matter how I dress them they will develop their own identities, that can't be controlled by the way I dress them. I realize they will start to have their own opinion as to how they want to dress. When this happens I will let them pick their own way of dressing and clothing, with limitations of course. (I've already been through this with my older son and daughter.) I can't see dressing my twins identically when they are older, that will be their choice to do so or not.
This statement isn't meant to offend anyone. I just wanted to put my opinion out there about what I think when it comes to dressing twins alike and their not having their own identity.
